We live in an incredibly fast paced world today when everything is expected instantly. Coffee on the go, paying bills at the press of a button and shopping twenty-four hours a day without leaving the house. I was born in the Seventies and all these things were totally unimaginable growing up.
However, for some of us, this pace of life is impractical and not everyone can appreciate that. My disability insists that things take me longer than others but I accept it, I don’t know any different.
My Dad is going through a frustrating stage of Parkinson’s Disease, it is debilitating, cruel and often to him, embarrassing. He feels vulnerable and exposed when his brain and body refuse to work together. He feels everyone is watching him, judging and speculating. They probably aren’t.
Could they be wondering if they can help? Are they innocently thinking ‘Is this Parkinson’s?’ Or ‘Have I seen that symptom in our…?’ Those with Parkinson’s Disease can often see the glass half empty when actually it is half full.
Sitting in a coffee shop recently, Dad was having difficulty in standing up from a chair. This can be a regular occurrence and especially prevalent at the moment.
A lady two tables along was watching his attempts to rise. I could see and almost feel her frustration, not at watching and wondering but at wanting to help him. Should she? Could she? Seeing my Mum struggle to help him as both tired, and that I couldn’t help from my wheelchair, she came over. Summoning her husband to grab an arm, they got him up without embarrassment or question.
She had looked like she was immersed in her own world until then, oblivious to anyone except her immediate company, but how wrong can you be? Human nature is so easily consumed into a selfish society however, I was reminded that in this crazily busy world, people we don’t know still care.
Thank you to a complete stranger for reminding me and for helping a man who desperately needs to see that people can help us with the most simple of tasks, without judgement.
We all need that.
10 August 2018